I worked in the Training Department for more than 10 years before I finally quit my job and moved to Singapore. So when I saw the words Team Building in one of the mall last week, it kinda remind me of the days when I used to work in the office.
Some of my friends sometimes ask if I miss going back to work…………..(I’ve been a full time mom for 3 years until now), which I replied immediately and in firm voice: “I don’t miss going back to work, but I miss my friends.”
It is true indeed. I worked for about 13 years in total, and the 6 last years with a child on my side. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoyed working so much at that time (in my last company) that sometimes I couldn’t wait for Monday to come and went back to the office. Strange, but true…….. On the other hand, I also couldn’t deny that I felt bored with my job in the last few months before I finally decided to quit and join daddy in Singapore. Still, at that time I had so many friends in my office and some of them still remain as my best friends until now.
I was at the top of my career with good position and then suddenly I had to switch my role to a full time mom. It was difficult at first but as time goes by, it is becoming easier. Do I have any regrets of quitting my job? I have to admit yes at first, but not anymore right now. For the first 6 years of my son’s early age and for 4 years when he was in toddler class, nursery class, and finally kindergarten, I have had missed so many things. I was not able to attend many occasions at his school, from Christmas Party, Easter Celebration, Parents Day, Pizza Making Day, End of School Day, National Day, and even when he was competing in schools. Name other school activities and I can assure you that I didn’t come in most of them. I think I regret those more than anything. Thank God I was still be able to attend his Graduation Day.
Now, as a SAHM (Stay At Home Mom), things are completely different. I also join The Parent Support Group since the boy was in Primary 2 (good if you want to make totally new different friends from other countries), and since then I was able to attend most of his school activities. End of school year celebration, parent teacher breakfast meeting, Racial Harmony Day, Chinese New Year, volunteer in school field trips or other activities, and a bunch of other things. He is always very glad if I say I am going to volunteer to help in school for certain activities because he likes to see me around the school. Sometimes I feel too lazy to volunteer for some occasions, but he always encourage me to register to volunteer. “Yes, yes, you should go……” that’s what he says when I say I probably don’t want to join. I even joined the dance team last year. I do feel that he’s proud when his momma is involved in various activities in schools. Those things are absolutely impossible if I’m still working.
So whenever someone asks if I miss going back to work, I will definitely say “NO” because I want to be here for my son as he grows up, be at home when he comes back from school, accompany him doing many things during the holidays which a working mom cannot do, bring him to his swimming lessons, going to playgrounds in the afternoon on weekdays, serve warm home cook meal everyday after he comes home from school are some things that I do not want to trade with anything else right now.
Oh, but I still do miss my friends…………..and hopefully we can do reunion someday.
I’ve been in both position, as a working mom and a stay at home mom. Both have their ups and downs. Being a SAHM is not that easy, there are some frustrating moments too, but whatever role we choose, we know since the day we accept this job/role/responsibility as a mother, we will not have holidays…………not even on Mother’s Day…………so let’s just enjoy whatever role that we choose…………………..
For this year Mother’s Day, my card came with this hilarious statement from the boy: “You know that even if I give you the card, you can’t still read what’s inside………….,
oh well……at least I still got my card…………
So mothers…………..whatever role that you choose to be………….do not stop making good memories with your children, they might forget many things happen to them in their childhood in their minds, but not in their hearts.
Happy Mother’s Day to ya all……………………..